moderated messages

"connected" co-parenting collaboration

In cases where co-parenting communication is at a reasonable level, a simple message board can keep enough space between the parties, but still allow a very efficient means of trading messages back and forth between co-parents without having to call one another.

Moderated messages are not for time critical or emergency communications. Messages are logged into a password protected message board. As long as parents check the board once a day, it should be very easy to share information that is relevant to your child or children's caregiving. Co-parents can share school related information, information about visitation changes, health care information and so on.

The moderated message board archives all communications between co-parents by date. It provides convenient subject areas and even contains a list of stock phrases which saves typing time and also models appropriate communication.

When a moderator, coach or other facilitator uses the moderated message board, he or she can view the items on the board or even contribute to the board and use the contents of the board as a means for inviting discussion and problem solving.

Moderated messages can work very well with two other BA products: Shared Calendar and LogBook. Shared Calendar is simply a common calendar that people can write dates on. It can be moderated or not. When the calenar is moderated, a moderator is the only one who can place previously agreed to or negotiated items on the calendar. If it isn't the calendar can be shared between the co-parents (requires a moderate amount of cooperation). LogBook is anothe type of information archiving that keeps a simple timeline of events that transpire before/during/after a parenting changeover. LogBooks are especially helpful to parents of young children or infants where daily information keeping is a must.